How can you bond with a baby you’re not carrying? Bonding with your unborn child when you’re working with a surrogate may seem challenging, but there are plenty of ways you can create a connection in utero as the IP(s).
Start Your Family Album Early
Your little one’s sonogram pictures are the very first glimpse you’ll have of your baby—there’s no greater thrill than making out the fingers, toes, and nose of your little one for the first time.
Print out copies of baby’s sonograms and frame them on your desk. Keep a copy in your purse or wallet to share with others. Keep their image with you so you can see their beautiful little face whenever you want.
Let Them Hear It
Just because you’re not carrying your child doesn’t mean they can’t hear you. Record yourself speaking, reading, cooing, or even singing.
Have your surrogate (if she’s comfortable) place a set of padded headphones on her stomach so your baby can get to know the sound of your voice. When you’re with your surrogate in person, do what you can to speak directly to your baby when you have the chance. Getting to know their parent’s voice is an important part of the bonding process.
Toy Shopping Sprees
You’ll inevitably be shopping for baby supplies before the arrival of your new baby. Be sure to cover all of the necessities, but while you’re at it, pick up some toys centered around hobbies you hope to share with your little one someday.
Your baby is obviously too young to play sports, dress up, ride a bike, or color, but if you’re particularly fond of football, fashion, cycling, or art, it’s a touching experience shopping for things you hope they’ll have in common with you some day. They grow up sooner than you think!
Surrogacy Strolls
Keeping active is an important part of a healthy pregnancy. If the weather permits, invite your surrogate to go for a hike or nature walk. Walking with your baby gives you the opportunity to speak to them, move with them, and stimulate them.
Write It Down
You’re not only bonding with your future baby—you’re bonding with your future toddler, child, preteen, and young adult. Imagine their life and any major milestones they may be reaching.
Write letters for the important events in their lives. Write to them on their first day of kindergarten, their first day of high school, their first date, the day they get their driver’s license, etc.
Let your child know that before they even entered this world, they meant the world to you.
